Counselling Gay Men in Sydney or Online.
My name is Ash Rehn and I am a counsellor and therapist working with sexuality and related concerns. I’m available for consultations in Sydney and also over MS Teams / Zoom or by phone.
If you meet with me in Sydney, you may be eligible for a Medicare rebate for face to face appointments at my Surry Hills clinic*.
I also offer online counselling and therapy for gay men as a comfortable and convenient alternative to appointments in person.
For a number of years I have offered coaching, counselling and therapy for expats who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Contact me now to make an appointment or for more information.
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Trapped in a Codependent Gay Relationship? How to Reclaim Yourself.
Gay relationships often begin after years of navigating identity, family, and belonging. When we finally find a partner, the pull to remain, even when things go wrong, can be powerful. But what happens when a codependent gay relationship stops being a place of safety and starts being a place you feel you cannot leave? This
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Your Mental Health Deserves a GP for Gay Men
Many gay men grow up believing they must look after themselves on their own. We learn to self-manage, to minimise our needs, and to keep parts of ourselves hidden from doctors who might not understand. For some of us, this leads to a habit of moving between GP practices whenever something feels uncomfortable. But a
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Daddy Issues and Gay Men: Ageism or Anxious Attachment?
Daddy Issues. Gay men throw this expression around casually. You’ll see it on TikTok, hear it in passing jokes and it’s used to shame those who are attracted to older partners. But what does it actually mean? And more importantly, is it helpful or harmful? Not all daddy issues are about trauma. And not all
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Open Relationships: Unlocking Erotic Energy in Long-Term Gay Love
Open relationships. Polyamory. Ethical non-monogamy. These are the gay relationship buzzwords of our time. For long-term gay couples, the spark of erotic energy often fades after around five, six, or seven years. This isn’t a sign of failure. It’s a reflection of a deeper transformation. What starts as sexual chemistry often evolves into comfort, care,
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Gay Depression After the Party: From Shame to Healing
The long weekend is over. The strobes are no longer flashing, the music has stopped, and your phone battery isn’t the only thing drained. Gay depression has hit. For many gay men in Sydney and Melbourne, these long weekend parties bring a much-needed celebration—a chance to dance, connect, flirt, escape. But as Tuesday dawns, a
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Feeling Lonely as a Gay Man in Sydney? You’re Not Alone.
Many gay men experience a quiet, persistent loneliness that isn’t always visible from the outside. You might be partnered, surrounded by friends, or active in the community—and still feel a lingering emptiness. As an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker and Medicare Provider of Focussed Psychological Strategies, I work with many men navigating this terrain. If
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Feeling Better as a Gay Man: Overcoming Not-Enough Syndrome.
Many gay men grapple with a pervasive sense of not feeling “good enough” or being “enough.” This internalized belief often stems from early experiences of shame, societal rejection, and the relentless comparison to heteronormative standards. Understanding and addressing this deep-seated feeling is crucial for personal growth, self-esteem, and self-acceptance. Learning self-compassion can be a transformative
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Confidential Therapy to Stop Using Meth and Chemsex.
Struggling to stop using meth and doing chemsex? You are not alone. Meth or Methamphetamine (aka ‘Crystal’, ‘Ice’ or ‘Tina’) causes problems for gay men. While it can immediately make you feel euphoric, horny and confident, even invincible, it is also highly addictive. Meth can cause you to panic, behave aggressively and have psychotic hallucinations.
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How to Find a Psychologist for Gay Men or Gay Mental Health Therapist.
Choosing a private counsellor, coach or psychologist for gay men requires background research. Governments in Australia have left this industry unregulated so many individuals promoting coaching or counselling sessions are inexperienced, unqualified, uninsured and lacking accountability. This leaves gay men vulnerable to breaches of confidentiality, unscientific methods and financial exploitation. Protect yourself by sourcing a
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Self-Compassion Coaching as Gay Men’s Therapy for Low Self-Esteem.
When overcoming the shame of feeling inadequate, deficient, or ‘not enough’ it can help to have some encouragement and coaching. Finding your inner cheerleader can assist you to feel less overwhelmed and connect with others.
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Gay Gaslighting and 5 Other Signs Your Same Sex Partner is Manipulating You
Gay relationships, like other intimate partnerships, function well when they are places of refuge and safety in which each individual can grow. So when being coupled leads to agitation, discomfort, manipulation or mistrust, it’s a sign something needs to change.
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Call Me By Your Name: Coming Out with Courage
Who doesn’t want, at least once in life, the experience of falling in love? But how do we find the courage to take steps into the unknown, perhaps risking rejection, so that our love might be acknowledged and possibly reciprocated?
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